Out is Through Workbook

Wow! It sure feels like the last two years has been a hot mess. When think back on the past 18 months I can’t help but think of a line from Sleeping at Last’s song, “Aperture.”

“God it has been quite a year(s). I’ve lived a little bit. And I’ve died a little more.”

As we usher in a new era, I can’t help but think that Sleeping at Last was referring to a rebirth as opposed to the notion of “dying inside.”

It was March 13th, 2020. I, like the rest of the world, was grounded from travel. For five years I had never been home for more than two weeks. When the going got tough, I went to Europe. And for the first time, I was stuck in a town that never  really felt like home....in a house that never really felt like mine.

Later that year, my now ex-husband and I made our divorce official. After 3.5 years of being separated, it was time. With one stroke of the pen, I had a new name and new beginning. At the same time, I also lost a different relationship that mattered tremendously to me. Albeit toxic, it was important, none the less.

I felt lost. I felt trapped. Some days I felt like my biggest success of the day was getting dressed. And yet, I refused to be defined by these events.

There’s one thing you need to know about me. I always want to know “how” to do things. I’m obsessed with workbooks (yes! they have those for adults!) So, I pulled out “all the things" and got to work. I declared that I mattered to myself and started down the path of doing the things that I teach others to do.

Now I’m passing those tools onto you. I’m giving you the exercises, questions, quotes, and behind the curtain conversations that allowed me to process where I was, and put me on the path of finding a healthier and more authentic me (we use the word authentic too much but without acceptance we can’t have it).

I created this workbook to give you the gift of this journey, and I am so excited that you have decided to give yourself this gift. I also hope you feel like I am right next to you, as you travel.

There are two HUGE concepts we’re going to cover.

The first is radical acceptance. We can’t change what we can’t accept. Not gonna lie, this is hard. For me there were lots of tears as I had to have a come to Jesus talk about where I was and what I needed to do to change it.

The second is how to deal with all the feels as they arise. Because they will. I want you to give yourself the gift of self-love by having the tools to help you move through the emotion. After all, the only way out is through, and the sooner you start the sooner you find yourself on the other side.